A new survey from the adult toy site LELO found 26% of people in relationships think they and their partner are polar opposites. But a solid 73% of us still believe opposites attract.
We’re talking the usual yin-and-yang combos: introvert meets extrovert, planner meets free spirit, dreamer meets spreadsheet warrior. When it works, each person brings something the other one lacks. You get balance, growth, and someone to blame when your “spontaneous weekend trip” costs $800.
But most people don’t go out looking for someone who hates all the same stuff they love. According to the people in the survey, the sweet spot for a successful relationship is 54% similar. That’s just enough overlap to share a Netflix account without fighting over every show.
You just need to match up on these core things
The things couples really need to match on are big ones: core values, family goals, and what counts as cheating (on a diet or each other). The least important things? Career ambitions, fitness routines, and hobbies. So, you might still make it even if one of you runs marathons while the other spends weekends on the couch binge-watching whatever Peacock is shoving down our throats that month.
You might not stay opposites forever
The good news: opposites may attract, but they don’t usually stay opposites. Over time, most couples say they’ve grown more alike than different. So, maybe love doesn’t just find a way… it finds the middle.